Recently I’ve heard a lot about teaching our kids to be more resilient. One statement used often is that we need to teach them they can do hard things. I do agree with this statement to a degree, but I think it can be interpreted differently by different people. I see it as if we shield our kids from every hardship throughout the day we can create a reality where the ups and downs are more difficult to handle. Shielding them can be taken too far, and like most things there should be a balance. Yet once again like many things, it doesn’t look at how everyone’s hard situations are uniquely their own. For me it has raised so many questions.
There are some children who are born into privilege. How can their situation be compared to other children who are born into very difficult circumstances? One example of this would be economic privilege. I wonder to myself if they think their privilege will go away if those who are less fortunate are given a lift up? I also often wonder who gets to make all the decisions of who needs help and who doesn’t? It seems ridiculous that it is up to just a few individuals, or in some cases just one person. Determining who qualifies as needing help, and who is just whiny and weak is a huge responsibility. So many people want to label others as lazy and taking advantage of the system. Sometimes the loudest voices are the ones fighting to keep things the same. Until you can have empathy and walk a mile in someone shoes it is probably easy to shout out those ideas. There doesn’t need to be a lot of thought put into what you are saying. Just pure emotion, and at times even rage.
Recently I heard a parent say they didn’t want to raise their son to be a wimp. They wanted him to have street smarts and be tough, and then unfortunately they said they wanted him to be able to do hard things. I cringed as I heard the catch phrase used that way. Until people can admit they are privileged, and have compassion for what some other’s go through it will stay the same. Many are so afraid to change things for the better. It’s too bad their voices are loud and they keep shouting.